I told the perfectionist in me to ‘shut up’!!

So Master 3 is right into making paper aeroplanes.  He usually relies on me for some good help to make it but today he caught me as I was multitasking washing up and making Master 1’s lunch.  I thought I’d give it a go with verbal instructions…

‘Fold it in half’ – and wow he got it.  ‘Now fold one of those corners back to the middle’.  So he takes the double-sided corner and starts folding.  I was about to say ‘no you’ve got the wrong one!!!!!’ when I bit my tongue.  I do like to get things just right but realised, ‘what does it really matter?’ on this occasion.

So I said no more and Master 3 continued on thinking he was doing a great job by himself (he was trying so hard!) and I kept giving the instructions.

Instead of a ‘paper aeroplane’, Master 3 ended up with some folded paper.  But do you know what?  It ‘flew’ about the same way as any of his proper paper aeroplanes so he didn’t notice any different!!!  AND he was so proud of himself.

Instead of saying ‘well done!’ or the usual praise, I developed his intrinsic motivation further.  ‘You made it by yourself!!!  And it flies!  That looked like a lot of fun!’.  See Kara’s post for further information on intrinsic motivation – Don’t become praise junkies! https://iraisemykids.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/dont-become-praise-junkies/



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About heidelightful

Hello friend! I am a paediatric speech pathologist and health coach. My vision is to create a world where parents can understand the real link between diet and their child's health and behaviour, and know how to create true health for their family. My two young, wonderful and sensitive sons both have food intolerances and have also taught me about my own, that I have never known about until now! Topics I have looked into for my own family's health and also from my role as a speech pathologist with children with picky eating are food intolerances, fussy eaters, creating healthy eaters and eating to prevent and ‘cure’ childhood issues such as ADHD, autism, eczema/skin issues, trouble sleeping, low immunity, frequent snot/ear infections and bedwetting, to name a few. I write many posts coming from being an exhausted mum trying to keep up with fussy boys who can only eat certain foods and also as a professional who has worked with other children with similar issues. I live on the Sunshine Coast in Australia with my husband and two boys and was previously an exchange student in Brazil! I hope to inspire you to help your child achieve their potential through health and well-being. Thanks for stopping by :) Heidi

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